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Welcome to a New Episode
Hello, beautiful ones. Welcome to a new episode of In the Flow of Magic. The magic is always there; it’s just a matter of aligning with it.
I’m taking you with me as I make some tea, so you’ll hear some sounds.
Making Summer Chai
I’m making a summer version of chai, a little bit lighter. I’ve got my fennel, my coriander, and some true cinnamon—not the one that causes allergens. So, I thought I would actually just share with you while making my tea.
Percy (the cat) is happy and fed, though he’s still stalking me, hoping for more food—but there’s not. So, how are you today?
I’ve just added the cinnamon, and now I’m going to put a little bit of ginger in. Okay, the ginger is there. So, we’ve got ginger, cinnamon, coriander, fennel, and a little bit of black pepper—just a little pinch—to, as we say, “potentiate it” and bring some activation.
Behind the Scenes w/Stress Coach
Today, I’m going to share a little bit of behind-the-scenes on what’s going on with me, Coach Viv. And I hope it relates to you, my listener—whether you’re a long-time listener or a new one.
If you are new to me, I take the skills I’ve learned over decades as a yoga teacher, meditation practitioner, and adept. I’ve studied with monks for decades. I actually said that to someone on a call, and she responded, “I would love to study with monks!” I replied, “I’ve studied with monks so you don’t have to,” and she said again, “I’d love to study with monks!”
Clients Dealing w/Toxic Stress
Today, I want to share that I am open for one-on-one clients. This is relatively new for me, as I’ve been focused a lot on my courses and programs—like the Chakra Course and Sexual Energy Alchemy, where I train women to work with their energy using a particular holistic model, self-massage, and acupressure.
But now, I’m opening my energy to work one-on-one, especially because of some recent news. It took some time, but I’ve been hearing about the struggles of professors, specifically African-American women, in academia. For those who know my backstory, I left academia years ago—pushed out by bullying, which seemed both racially and gender-motivated. I literally walked away from that career, diagnosed with PTSD, anxiety, and depression by a therapist.
My Academic Struggles
I’d always been a sensitive person, but growing up in New York, I was doing well. Then I entered academia, where a toxic job environment pushed me to my limits. Eventually, I realized that my mental and emotional health was more important, so I walked away.
I’ve been getting the sense that some of you, regardless of ethnicity, might be going through something similar. I coach all women because I believe we have much in common. That’s my zone of genius—speaking and listening to women, where we can create a wholesome relationship and help each other.
Connecting with Women in Need
Lately, I’ve been on the phone with women who reach out to me after seeing my ads on Facebook. They fill out a questionnaire, and we set up a call to talk about the stress they’re experiencing. But I’m finding that some women are engaging with the material, yet there’s a hesitation when it comes to taking the next step.
These women are definitely suffering—there’s no doubt about that. But, sadly, they’re not always psychologically ready to free themselves from the situation. I hate to say it because it sounds like blaming the victim, but as a woman who’s been through it, I know that we sometimes struggle to see that we need help early enough.
Stress and Peri-menopause
When I was in academia, my sleep started to suffer. For many women, this coincides with perimenopause, which can overlap with the apex of your career. You may not even know what’s happening, but the stress is real. It often feels like you’re not wanted, and that subtle exclusion builds up over time.
For men listening to this, please be aware of how you treat your female colleagues, especially in academia. It’s a lifelong career, and the tenure process can be brutal. You’re judged, rated, and often powerless, with the weight of promotion or tenure looming over you.
The Burden of Racism and Sexism
Women of color, in particular, face additional burdens. There’s a misconception that if someone is a diversity hire, they must be incompetent. But that thinking is completely racist. The company that hires someone is responsible for their competence, regardless of race or gender.
I know I was brought in for diversity, but I was eminently qualified for my job. Yet, my male colleagues didn’t always see it that way. They had their strengths and weaknesses, just like me, but I faced belittlement and exclusion.
Toxic Jobs and Martyr Complexes
Toxic jobs have patterns, and you’re rarely the first victim. It’s a rehearsed game plan for those who perpetuate it. If you’re a woman in this situation, or even a man who could work with a female coach, reach out to me.
Unfortunately, what I’m seeing with many women is that they aren’t psychologically ready to break free. There’s almost a martyr complex—a tendency to tough it out and carry the burden alone.
Taking Care of Yourself
In the Black community, there’s this trope of the “strong Black woman”—someone who shoulders the burden without asking for help. But all women experience this to some degree, depending on their culture. It’s important not to fall into that trap.
I’ve seen women become deeply depressed or even suicidal under these pressures. I’ve been there myself. If you need support, reach out to me. You don’t have to go through this alone.
A Holistic Approach
What I offer is a blend of mindfulness, meditation, and acupressure. It’s like self-therapy, allowing you to work with your inner world—your mind and emotions. I also teach clients specific acupressure points for stress, headaches, high blood pressure, and more.
This combination of modalities provides a powerful way to balance your energy system. Through one-on-one sessions, we can really dive into what’s happening for you.
Don’t Tough It Out Alone
Don’t be that woman who knows things aren’t working but tries to tough it out anyway. You deserve support. The work I do with clients isn’t about necessarily leaving the job, but gaining clarity and reducing stress so you can make informed decisions.
My program involves eight sessions over 11 weeks, and I promise that even from the very first session, you’ll feel a deep sense of calm and relaxation.
If you’re under a tremendous amount of stress and looking for a holistic way to cope, reach out to me. You can email me at assistant@intheflowofmagic.com or visit MindfulMeridianMethod.com for more information. Don’t tolerate pain and discomfort when there’s help available.
Much love, peace, and blessings. Bye-bye.
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